Shopping for your first vibrator can be a daunting task—where do you even start? After all, it’s not the type of thing you can simply try before you buy. Plus, as convenient as online shopping is, product descriptions can be confusing at best and misleading at worst. We’re here to help. Ahead are tips to help you take your pleasure into your own hands: What to consider beforehand
- Get to know yourself. We’re sure you must be excited to get your hands on your first battery-operated boyfriend—we can’t blame you—but first, you have to figure out what you need. There are literally hundreds of toys to choose from, which can be exciting in theory, but it might also be overwhelming. Do you know your body? Do you know what turns you on? Do you prefer internal (penetrative) or external stimulation (clitoral)? Do you want a cute or more discreet toy or an extremely powerful one with a phallic component? While you may not have all the answers yet, starting that conversation is essential in picking the best vibrator for you.
- Safety first, always. Though tempting, don’t just reach for the cheaper option. Some inexpensive products could contain toxic chemicals. Like everything you buy, read the fine print. Make sure your first vibrator is phthalate and BPA free. The safest move is to stick to silicone. If you aren’t sure, use a condom.
- Take the pressure off. All bodies are different. Contrary to what’s portrayed in porn and the mainstream media, women don’t orgasm the same way. Some women climax through penetration (vaginal or anal), while others need clitoral stimulation. The excitement comes from figuring it out on your own (or with a partner). You could get the hang of it on your first try or it could take some time. Don’t be so hard on yourself. And if you don’t climax, that’s okay, too. Too often, we believe that good sex always has to end with an orgasm. Nothing could be further from the truth. Putting that kind of pressure on yourself takes the fun out of self-pleasure, and that’s why women stop and give up.
Common female vibrators:
Bullet vibrators
These vibrators are the perfect introductory sex toy. They’re small and discreet, and can be used all over the body—internally or externally. To use a bullet, you simply press the vibrator onto your clit (or any other sensitive area). https://www.amazon.com/SVAKOM-Electric-Waterproof-MassagerVibrating/dp/B01MYTH2AE/ref=pd_sbs_121_3 https://www.amazon.com/RZWD-Mini-Charge-Vibrator-10-Speed-RecoveryRose/dp/B071R5NXBW/ref=sr_1_10_a_it https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06XVSKQKX/ref=sr_1_9_a_it
Clitoral vibrators
As the name suggests, these are specifically designed for clitoral stimulation. Unlike bullet vibrators, clitoral vibrators aren’t always compact. The best clitoral vibrator, in our humble opinion, is the wearable kind. All you’d have to do is position the motor over your clit and tuck the arms under your labia. https://www.amazon.com/Power-Vibes-10-Speed-WearableVibrator/dp/B071G3QTNG/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_3_a_it https://www.amazon.com/Odeer-Vibrating-Stimulation-frequencyRechargeable/dp/B071ZKYW1M/ref=sr_1_3_a_it https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01IEYHPQ0
Rabbit vibrators
If you’re looking for a toy that stimulates your vulva and clit simultaneously, pick up a rabbit vibrator! While there are different types of rabbit vibrators, it usually has a shaft for penetration and “ears” for external stimulation, making it the ultimate female vibrator. Some rabbits also have ridges, perfect for all you thrusters out there. https://www.amazon.com/Fantacharm-Multi-frequency-Waterproof-Multispeed-Rechargeable/dp/B072BJQCXZ/ref=pd_sbs_121_6
G-Spot vibrators
This type hits the spot…literally. G-Spot vibrators are usually curved to better reach the target. Some are hard, but there are also soft, flexible ones. https://www.amazon.com/Vibrator-Wowyes-Rechargeable-TherapeuticStimulator/dp/B071FKJNMH/ref=sr_1_37 https://www.amazon.com/Nibito-Frequency-Vibrator-VibrationStick/dp/B07236D893/ref=sr_1_30_s_it
Wand vibrators
For all the Samanthas out there—hello, Sex and the City fans—we have the wand. The (magic) wand is the gift that keeps on giving. This vibrator’s stimulation is so powerful, you’ll feel like you’re sitting on top of a washing machine! Still unconvinced? Girl, this vibrator doubles as a back massager—two for the price of one. https://www.amazon.com/PALOQUETH-Multi-Speed-Cordless-RechargeableWaterproof/dp/B06W531GML/ref=pd_sbs_121_2 https://www.amazon.com/Luxshop-Personal-attachment-Multipurposewaterproof/dp/B01LYBDJSR/ref=pd_day0_121_4
How to use a vibrator
Because there isn’t one correct way to use a vibrator, we encourage you to explore different parts of your body. Contrary to popular belief, vibrators aren’t just for clitoral stimulation or penetration. Try holding your new vibrator against other erogenous zones—like your neck or inner thigh; some women lightly rub their vibrator on their nipples while using their free hand to play with their clit. Just relax and discover what works best for you.
How to introduce a vibrator into your relationship
If you’re in a healthy sexual relationship with someone—with or without the emotional connection—your partner probably wants you to enjoy sex as much as he or she does. In a perfect world, all you’d have to do is ask if they want to try using a sex toy and they’re more than enthusiastic about it. But we don’t live in a perfect world. The truth is, men still find sex toys, especially ones with a phallic component, to be intimidating and emasculating. They think, “Am I not enough? Do I not satisfy her sexually?” It doesn’t help that society puts unfair expectations of virility on men. Because of this, we don’t suggest surprising him with a vibrator right away. Despite your good intentions, without the initial conversation, it might seem like an attack on his skills in the bedroom. A big no-no. Instead, ask him what he thinks about trying a sex toy. Let him know how much you enjoy it when you fly solo. Use the toy as an educator and show him all your sweet spots. If he’s open to it, begin by pressing the toy on other areas of the body. This way, you might be able to convince him that a vibrator is a win-win for everyone.
